What Happened to Courtship?

Whatever happened to the days when a boy would like a girl and ask her out on a date? I mean, did they go out of style around the same time as bee hive haircuts and poodle skirts? I'm pretty sure that the only way relationships in this day and age start is with a random hook up or, minimum, a make out. I mean, it seems like all relationships start out in this way: a girl goes to a bar with her friends and has a few drinks. She starts chatting up a random guy, or maybe a mutual friend of a friend, and separates herself from her group. Next thing you know this girl is either swapping spit with this guy in a dark corner of the bar or she finds her friends to inform them that she's taking off and going back to his place for some late night fun. If she's lucky, the guy will call her the next day and ask her out on a valid date. But let's be honest, nine times out of ten these people never see each other again.

So my question is, how does a girl who makes out with a guy at a bar attempt to pursue said dude without looking weird? I mean, isn't it the guy's job to chase after the girl? And how long does that window remain open before you just become another random hook up at a bar that the guy ends up joking about and embellishing about with his friends at a later date? Not that any of this scenario has happened to me recently, because if it had, I would be lounging by the pool with a drink in my hand in the heart of bone city.

I think the bigger question here is: When did the male species become a bunch of pussies and decided they have to wait for the girl to show some sort of interest? That whole myth that girls can get with any guy they want is a bunch of bologna. Most girls are waiting for the guy to make the first move because they do not want to appear too forward. Besides, I am a firm believer that a guy may like a girl who is forward at the beginning but does not want to have a long term relationship with this girl because she is more forward and confident than he is. It makes him feel like less of a man than he already is because he didn't approach the girl in the first place. Guess what guys? Girls want to be chased, not stalked or harrassed, but chased. They want to feel attractive, it'll boost their self esteem and they will probably be much more apt to goign out with you if you make them feel that way. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS MAKE THE FIRST MOVE AND STOP ACTING LIKE A PUSSYBITCH!

Moving on, since apparently it is now up to the girl to show interest I am curious to find out the best ways to do so. I prefer to take the chickenshit approach and in order to give the guy your number for future reference, you shoot him an email (if you have it available) saying you need a ride somewhere (ride clearly having dual connotations) and ask him to call you either way. This secures the ball in his court. Or you could do what my manager suggested. She recommends that the next time you see the guy, post hook, you should just put your hand in his pocket. That would be all well and good except I'm pretty sure that putting your hand in someone else's pocket is considered Sexual Abuse/Harassment in most states. Besides who just walks up to someone and puts their hand in their pocket? And what do you do afterwards, just gaze at him with stars in your eyes while your hand is in his pocket? Or do you carry on a conversation with another person while your hand is in someone else's pocket? Either way, its just weird and makes you look like you're trying to rip off his wallet instead of trying show your interested. The idea is to get in his pants in the figurative sense, not the literal.

I've got one hand in my pocket and the other one is...
Anita Mann